A lot of couples struggle to see the benefit of owning sex toys. While it’s not uncommon for women to own a dildo or two, its actually quite rare for men in a relationship to own a stroker. Many women are disgusted by the idea of their man owning such a device. This article will take a look at a few of the reasons couples should allow and encourage each other to own and use toys. Hopefully, by the end you will agree that couples should own sex toys.

Convenience

Well, it’s really convenient.  Couples that own sex toys take their sexual needs from requiring their partner to something they can take care of themselves.  Obviously, this is something that can be done by hand as well.  But toys enhance the experience.  It makes them telling you no for whatever reason less depressing because you have another option.  I know you just read that and thought, “That sure sounds a lot like being replaced.” But let me explain. 

Shifting focus

By not requiring your partner to fulfill your sexual needs, it makes it so that both partners can focus on other aspects of the relationship.  Couples, especially young couples, put a heavy focus on sex.  They use sex in place of other types of emotional bonding.  Ever heard of make-up sex?  That doesn’t fix whatever emotional issue or problem that caused you to call it that.  It just sweeps the problem under the rug by covering it in bodily fluids and making everybody tired.  Sure, angry sex can be great, but what’s even better?  Having sex with your partner, even when there’s another option available.

Enhanced sexual experience

My collection of strokers is up to about 25 now.  That’s 25 silicone or TPE vaginas and buttholes that all vary in features.  It’s a whole harem of sex toys.  Knowing I have so many options available boosts my wife’s confidence when I snuggle up next to her, and she can feel I’m turned on.  It takes it from a mentality of “I’m being replaced” to one of “he has all these options and still would rather fuck me.” Even still, if she’s not feeling good, or has to get up early, or doesn’t want to do the deed, she knows she can confidently say no, and send me away to take care of it myself. And since she also owns several toys of her own, she can take care of her needs when the situation is reversed.

People have different sex cycles

This is probably the number one reason couples should own sex toys. Not everyone wants to have sex all the time.  People get tired.  They get sick.  Sometimes they must leave for a while for work, or to go visit family, or whatever.  By having a collection of sex toys, my wife and I know that when that happens, both partners’ sexual needs will still be met.  It’s comforting to know that the drawer full of dildos is there for my wife when I’m gone for work.  It reduces thoughts of infidelity on both ends.  In our relationship, that type of thinking has never been an issue, but it still gives peace of mind.  Sex toys act almost as a security system when sex isn’t an option or when one party doesn’t want to have sex.

Fulfillment of other needs

Women mainly use sex toys for this one.  Have you ever had really bad sex?  Some days, people can struggle to perform or finish too quickly, leaving their partner frustrated.  Sex toys can fill those gaps by giving your partner a way to fulfill their needs after you’ve failed to do so.  This doesn’t mean you are a failure.  The only absolute failure here would be if you didn’t allow them to do so.  Ideally, you would help your partner achieve sexual gratification, even if you already did. 

But sometimes, that’s not practical.  Maybe you had a quicky before work or on your lunch break and had to hurry away.  Perhaps they did such an excellent job of finishing you that you can’t move or fall asleep immediately.  By having sex toys around, your partner can gratify themselves.  However, in the case of the latter, you probably shouldn’t make a habit of it.

Training and exploration

Couples should own sex toys for both training and exploration. I would like to think my wife loves the size of my dick exclusively.  But I know that she may fantasize about different sizes or shapes.  And that goes both ways.  She knows that I have an alien kink.  She can’t ever be an alien-like I could never be a horse.  Sex toys for men and women allow us to explore our individual fantasies. 

Endurance training is another benefit for men who own sex toys.  I won’t go into detail about this since there are countless other places you can read about.  But basically, if used in a certain way, strokers can help a man learn to control his orgasms. 

Couples play

While my wife and I don’t do this often, many couples who own sex toys do.  That is, they use toys on each other.  There are many different ways to do this.  Some couples use toys to tease each other.  Others use them as fantasy aids (Alien Love Cos specialty. Check out our selection, here).  Some use them to take breaks during intercourse.  There are many ways to satisfy your partner, and sex toys are an extra tool you can pull out of your hat.

I don’t think it’s abnormal for people to feel threatened by sex toys in a relationship.  But those feelings are usually blown out of proportion and exaggerated.  Sex toys aren’t a replacement for companionship, love, or even sex.  They are more like frozen pizza that can get thrown in the oven at a moment’s notice when you don’t want to cook a real meal.